THE BLOG: At the Threshold
Open enrollment arrives every autumn and most people handle it the same way, which is by clicking renew and returning to their day.
In an ordinary year that is a defensible choice. In the first year ...
The first meeting with a divorce attorney is expensive, short, and easy to waste.
Most women arrive with a story and leave with a list of things to go find. That is a normal first meeting and it is n...
A woman can be married for thirty years, pay every bill on time, manage the household finances competently, and still arrive at a divorce or a death with a credit profile that does not fully reflect a...
Over the past several months, thirteen women have walked through this space. Sophia with her folders. Vera with her eleven books and her thirty-two questions organized by topic. Margaret, who never co...
There is a fact about human vision I keep returning to.
The human eye distinguishes more shades of green than any other color. Estimates vary, and the exact count is less interesting than the reason....
There is a particular feeling that arrives after a major transition, once the immediate crisis has passed and the dust has begun to settle. It is the feeling of being behind. Behind where you thought ...
A financial plan and a financial pattern are not the same thing, and confusing the two is one of the quietest reasons good plans fall apart.
A plan is the structure. It is the contribution schedule, ...
Some financial transitions have a name everyone recognizes. Divorce. Widowhood. Inheritance. They come with sympathy cards and casseroles and people who know, more or less, what to say.
Then there is...
Most financial advice is built for a person who does not exist. A person with no history, no fear, no grief, no competing obligations to people she loves. A person who hears a sound recommendation and...
When most people think about the financial side of divorce, they think about lawyers. Maybe accountants. What many people do not know about -- until they are in the middle of a divorce themselves -- i...