THE BLOG: At the Threshold
A woman in the middle of a divorce told me she had spent twenty minutes standing in a grocery aisle unable to choose a brand of rice.
She was embarrassed telling me. She should not have been. She had...
Open enrollment arrives every autumn and most people handle it the same way, which is by clicking renew and returning to their day.
In an ordinary year that is a defensible choice. In the first year ...
A woman can be married for thirty years, pay every bill on time, manage the household finances competently, and still arrive at a divorce or a death with a credit profile that does not fully reflect a...
Some women arrive at a financial transition and discover, in the middle of it, that the financial life they thought they had was partly fiction.
A credit line neither of you discussed. A retirement a...
Over the past several months, thirteen women have walked through this space. Sophia with her folders. Vera with her eleven books and her thirty-two questions organized by topic. Margaret, who never co...
There is a fact about human vision I keep returning to.
The human eye distinguishes more shades of green than any other color. Estimates vary, and the exact count is less interesting than the reason....
Most people walk into divorce trying to win the split. The ones who come out the other side feeling steady tend to start somewhere quieter. They figure out what safety looks like first, and let the di...
Most financial advice is built for a person who does not exist. A person with no history, no fear, no grief, no competing obligations to people she loves. A person who hears a sound recommendation and...
Brigid does not fit any of the other archetypes, and that is not because something is missing. It is because she is in the middle of becoming. Her financial identity is suspended for a moment, not los...
